REPAIR & REBUILD
When love feels shaken, healing is still possible.
WHEN THE GROUND FEELS UNSTEADY
Maybe jealousy spiraled into defensiveness or distance. Maybe an agreement was broken. Maybe emotions built up until everything started to feel fragile.
Even in conscious, open relationships, pain happens. Rupture doesn’t have to mean the end
— it can be the beginning of something more honest and resilient.
If you’ve lost connection, trust, or safety, repair isn’t about going back. It’s about rebuilding from truth — creating a stronger, more grounded foundation than before.
The Path of Repair
Repairing a relationship after rupture takes courage. It asks both partners to slow down, look inward, and remember how to meet each other again — not out of fear, but from love.
When a rupture happens, your body registers it as danger. Your nervous system goes into survival — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Before words or solutions can work, safety has to return.
That’s why this stage of coaching begins with regulation and understanding. We start by helping you reconnect to your body and emotions before trying to fix the relationship itself.
WHAT WE EXPLORE TOGETHER
Learn how stress and trauma responses shape communication and connection.
Repair After Breach:
Rebuild safety after broken agreements through accountability and compassion.
Healing Jealousy & Betrayal:
Transform reactivity into curiosity, empathy, and emotional insight.
Redefine agreements and restore integrity in your relationship.
Communication After Conflict
Develop tools for emotional regulation, active listening, and safe expression.
Reconnect emotionally and erotically once safety has returned.
ABOUT LAURIE
I’m Laurie Ellington, founder of Poly-Coach and trauma-informed relationship and intimacy coach. I help people and couples rebuild trust and connection through somatic awareness, emotional regulation, and honest communication.
My approach brings together:
- Somatic Experiencing (SE): Helping the body move from survival back to safety.
- IFS-Informed Coaching: Working with protective parts that show up during conflict.
- Trauma-Informed Communication: Learning to speak and listen without reactivating old wounds.
- Tantra & Sacred Relating: Reconnecting eros with trust and presence.
This isn’t quick-fix problem solving.
It’s grounded, embodied rebuilding — where both people learn to love from a place of awareness and choice.
THE PHILOSOPHY OF REPAIR
It’s about meeting what did happen with honesty, compassion, and accountability — and discovering what new relationship can emerge from that truth.
All relationships rupture at times.
What matters is how we repair.
When you bring awareness to the nervous system and the heart, repair becomes sacred work — a space to heal old patterns and rediscover closeness.
THE COACHING JOURNEY
Deepen & Expand is designed for those already practicing ethical non-monogamy who are ready to evolve from managing relationships to embodying love as a conscious practice.
PHASE 1 — STABILIZATION & SAFETY
We begin with the body. You’ll learn to recognize and regulate stress responses so communication can happen again. This restores calm and self-trust.
PHASE 2 — UNDERSTANDING & ACCOUNTABILITY
We unpack what happened — gently, without blame. You’ll learn to listen without defense, speak with ownership, and take accountability for impact.
PHASE 3 — RECONNECTION & REBUILD
We rebuild integrity and intimacy through communication rituals, embodied repair practices, and renewed agreements that reflect who you are now.
Repair can’t be rushed — it’s a process of steady reconnection.
WHY COACHING MATTERS
Coaching offers structure, compassion, and clarity. This isn’t therapy — it’s embodied, forward-moving work grounded in presence and nervous system awareness.
It’s a space where both partners feel seen, supported, and guided toward understanding. That’s where safety, trust, and intimacy begin to return.
IMAGINE WHAT’S POSSIBLE
CLIENT REFLECTIONS
“We thought our relationship was over. Laurie helped us rebuild from the ground up. We didn’t just heal — we learned how to love in a completely new way.”
– M & T, New York
“After a rupture around boundaries, we couldn’t talk without fighting. Through coaching, we found language for our fear and tools to rebuild safety.”
– R & J, San Francisco
“We came to Laurie after an emotional affair shook our marriage. What we learned about trust and embodiment has changed everything.”
– E & P, London
COACHING OPTIONS
FREE
CONNECTION CALL
(15 MINUTES)
A confidential space to share what’s happening and explore whether this work is right for you.
EXPLORATORY COACHING
SESSION
(1 HOUR, DISCOUNTED)
WORK WITH ME ANYWHERE
This is open relationship coaching designed for real-life healing — practical, compassionate, and grounded in nervous system safety.
A NEW BEGINNING
Repair isn’t the end of your story — it’s the moment you both choose love again, this time with more awareness and care.
When you rebuild from truth, every scar becomes part of your strength.
“Repairing with Laurie didn’t just save our relationship — it taught us how to love.”
– S & D, Chicago
Now, let’s rebuild what’s sacred.
RESOURCES FOR HEALING & RECONNECTION
Blog:
Creating Relationship Agreements That Actually Work
The Poly Tantra Kink Podcast
Other resources:
Free resources to support your relationship journey
