Here’s an example of a client’s breakthrough during a recent coaching session:
Today’s client spoke of inaction – a feeling of passivity, getting stuck, unable to move forward. His experience was not tied to polyamory, rather to life in general. As I welcomed his experience into my awareness, I was able to offer specific, pointed questions. This allowed him to see with his own eyes that his inaction was tied to a series of negative (and false beliefs). “I’m not good enough, I’m unworthy, etc”, were on autopilot in his mind. As he recognized these false beliefs, he was able to see how the beliefs were created in childhood experiences.
At this point, I brought the attention to the present moment and asked him, “Is it true that you are unworthy and not good enough?” In that moment he said, “I know I lack certain skills, but that doesn’t mean I am unworthy. That doesn’t have to mean I’m not good enough.”
Knowing what we need, for example, “certain skills,” can help us dispel the negative beliefs. As we develop new skills, we feel more empowered. We can then create new experiences.
The result? A greater sense of joy in who we are. This increases our chances of achieving our goals and fulfilling our dreams.