Couples Therapy Or Coaching?
The majority of the people who contact me want to work with a professional who can help them move through challenging situations in their life or in their relationship.
My intention in this article is to give you an idea of who I am, what I can do, and what I cannot do. It’s incredibly important to me that anyone who hires me does so because it’s in their best interest and it’s in alignment with what they are needing and what I am able to offer.
What is my role as a Polyamorous Relationship Coach?
Simply put, I am a relationship coach. I work with individuals and couples in all kinds of relationships. I specialize in polyamory and polyamorous relationships because I have real-life experience in the poly lifestyle. This means I have walked through the fire of what it’s like to move from a traditional monogamous mindset to a polyamorous one. I have real time experience working through challenging situations and emotions while being in an amazing relationship with my primary partner. My deepest desire as a coach is to help people learn how to create healthy and sustainable polyamorous relationships.
What makes me different than a couples therapist?
For starters, I am a coach, not a therapist. I completed an intensive two-year coaching program that gave me tools to work through unconscious beliefs and patterns that kept me in unhealthy relationships. During the training, I was both a participant and facilitator of some very powerful transformative work. Our team held weekend immersions to create space for people see for themselves how their limiting beliefs contributed to unhealthy behaviors and how those unhealthy behaviors kept them stuck in painful patterns. With that awareness, participants were able to see they had a choice in whether to engage in an unhealthy behavior or choose something different. From there, participants learned and practiced simple, powerful and effective tools that led to dramatic positive shifts in all areas of their life. This two-year coaching training gave me insights and taught me incredible self-empowerment skills. This coaching program, coupled with my experience in polyamory, led me to see how my learned experiences and skills could help people who were venturing into the world of polyamory.
What is my polyamory therapy approach?
My approach is similar to therapy in that my intention is to help people make positive shifts in their life and in their relationships. My approach is different from therapy in that I do not specialize in the treatment of psychological disorders, addictions, mental health issues and trauma-related illnesses. I am action based where therapy tends to be more process based. Granted, both modalities can and do overlap. Who you work with will depend on a lot of personal factors. Only you can decide what’s best for you. What’s important to me is that my clients know up front that I am a professional coach, not a therapist.
How do I know what’s right for me?
The best place to start is to have a coaching consultation. If you are looking for a poly-friendly professional, then please contact me. Together, we will see if working together is the next best step. If not, then we can discuss who might better serve you.