Polyamory Friendly Therapy
Questions, questions, questions. We all have questions (and opinions) about polyamory. People want to know what it is, what it isn’t, how to do it, and how not too. The same goes for the practice of being in an open relationship and practicing ethical non-monogamy. As a Poly-Coach using poly-friendly therapy approach, I have discovered that there is no one specific definition of polyamory that will satisfy everyone. Just as we are unique in being human, how we live, the choices we make, etc., we are also unique in our identification with and beliefs about relationships.
Special Note: Although I use a poly-friendly therapy approach, I am a professional poly-friendly relationship coach. In addition to my years of experience as an expert, I also have years of experience in polyamory and polyamorous relationships.
As a poly-friendly coach, I can legally share my personal experience with you when it is in service to help you gain perspective on a given situation. This is something that licensed therapists cannot do. Also, I can do sessions virtually anywhere. Most licensed therapists are bound to doing sessions in a private office which tends to increase their hourly rate.
Lastly, it is rare to find a licensed poly-friendly therapist who has the kind of “boots on the ground” experience in polyamory and polyamorous relationships that I have. This is one of the main reasons people hire me as their experienced and professional poly-friendly relationship coach.
What Kinds Of Insights Can I Gain From Working With A Poly-Friendly Therapist?
I’m always amazed at what transpires using a poly-friendly therapy approach in my coaching sessions. As a third party, I have the advantage of being able to notice what many of my poly-coach clients do not see. The polyamorous relationship lifestyle offers plenty of opportunities for us to express ourselves in new and exciting ways. When we show up and allow ourselves to be who we are, and support others in doing the same, we give ourselves and others opportunity to be more authentic and to love and appreciate who we are in our purest form.
Click the link to read my full article dedicated to “What Kinds Of Insights Can I Gain From Working With A Poly-Friendly Therapist.”
What Are Some Success Stories From Poly-Friendly Therapy Sessions?
As a polyamorous relationship coach, I continuously witness deep growth and personal transformation in the lives of the people who choose to hire me as their poly-friendly therapist. Although the success stories differ in content, here are a few things they have in common:
- Poly-friendly therapy sessions create a space for clients to better understand and support each other and their desires with more connection and less conflict.
- With improved communication skills, Poly-Coach clients experience more intimacy and depth in their relationship and they feel more confident as they continue exploring polyamory and polyamorous relationships.
- In poly-friendly therapy and coaching sessions session, clients become more practiced in recognizing their feelings, identifying their needs and asking for support. This creates more ease in themselves and in their relationship.
Read the more about the benefits of using a poly-friendly therapy approach here.
How Do You Define Polyamory And Polyamorous Relationships?
One thing I have learned in my experience in polyamorous relationships and working with a poly-friendly therapist approach is that there is no one way to describe polyamory. Meaning, there is no one way to be in a polyamorous relationship. The polyamorous relationship coaching I offer encourages my clients to create and recreate their poly relationships in whatever way works for them individually and as a group. I see poly coaching as a way to empower people to take the reigns in how they want to be in relationship with themselves and with others without relying so much on societal norms.
For a more in-depth answer to the question with a poly-friendly therapy twist, check out my full post dedicated to defining polyamory and polyamorous relationships.
What’s The Difference Between Polyamory, Open Relationships, And Ethical Non-Monogamy?
I don’t think there is one solid way to define polyamory, open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. By nature these non-traditional ways of being in relationship are unique. What works for some may not work for others. This is something I really enjoy about being in this non-traditional lifestyle! One thing I share with my clients who seek poly-friendly therapy advice from me is rather than getting stuck on the definitions and labels of these terms, let’s put our energy towards what makes these kinds of relationships work.
For more information, check out my full post dedicated to the difference between polyamory, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy.
A Poly-Friendly Therapy Perspective On Why People Seek Polyamory And Polyamorous Relationships
People seek polyamory and polyamorous relationships for a variety of reasons. I chose polyamory because I was at a point in my life where I was ready to upgrade my way of being in relationship. My previous relationships were all monogamous. And, for whatever reason, each one came to a point where I felt trapped. I often had the sense that I was losing a part of myself. After an incredibly challenging relationship, it became clear to me that I was done with traditional relationships. I was ready to step out of the societal norm and create my own path. I wanted to be in a relationship that supported my deepest desires and supported the deepest desires of my partner or partners. In addition, I saw a need for a poly-friendly therapy approach for others in the lifestyle. It was seeing that need that led me to develop my polyamorous relationship coaching practice.
For a more in-depth to the above question, check out my full post dedicated to “Why People Seek Polyamory And Polyamorous Relationships.”Schedule with Poly-Coach Today
What Makes Polyamorous Relationships Work And How Can A Poly-Friendly Therapy Approach Help?
I’ll be honest, it takes a lot of work to create any kind of healthy and sustainable relationship. Adding another person, as in the case of polyamory and polyamorous relationships, can make things even more complicated. What I have learned, both in practicing polyamory and offering polyamorous support with a poly-friendly therapy approach, is that there key factors that can either help or hinder a poly relationship. Some of those factors include open honest communication, respect, and genuine love and support for everyone involved.
Learn more about what how to succeed in polyamory in my post entitled “What Makes Polyamorous Relationships Work.”
What Do I Do With The Fear That I Am Doing Something Wrong And How Can A Poly-Friendly Approach Help?
Given that the majority of society is brought with the notion that monogamy is the only socially acceptable way to be in a romantic relationship, people often struggle with how to be polyamorous in a not so polyamorous world. Our personal programming and cultural upbringing around relationship and marriage deeply impact our views and beliefs about what is “right” and what is “wrong.” Working with these core beliefs of right and wrong can be very challenging. That’s why it is incredibly important to take your time to choose the best person to help you; be it a poly-friendly therapist, polyamory counselor, or polyamorous relationship coach.
Learn how one man used my poly-friendly therapy approach to address his fear of doing something wrong here.
Do Mono/Poly (Monogamous & Polyamorous Relationships Work?
In relationships where one person considers themselves polyamorous and the other person considers themselves monogamous (mono/poly or poly/mono), things can get complicated fast. There a number of things to consider and important conversations to have in deciding if and how this kind of relationship might work for you and your partner. It’s worth noting that in order for any kind of relationship to work, all parties need to be in agreement with the kind of relationship they are co-creating. They need to share, or at least understand, each other’s definitions of relationships, especially polyamorous relationships.
Read the complete post dedicated to mono/poly relationships here.
Where Can I Meet Polyamorous And Poly-Friendly People?
People often ask me how to find people interested in polyamory and polyamorous relationships. Unfortunately, finding the perfect person to date can be difficult for anyone; and when polyamory is added to the mix, it gets even harder! That said, there are a few ways to increase one’s chances of meeting like-minded polyamorous people and it may be a lot easier than you think!
For an in-depth answer to how to find polyamorous people, check out my post dedicated to finding polyamorous people.Schedule with Poly-Coach Today