Show Notes
In this episode of The Poly Tantra Kink Podcast, Laurie Ellington sits down with sacred sexuality pioneer Laurie Handlers for a candid, powerful conversation about embodied legacy, erotic vitality, and living what you teach.
With over four decades of experience guiding people through sexuality, shame, and consciousness work, Laurie reflects on her early curiosity about the body, her first encounters with tantra in the 1990s, and the radical life transformation that followed. What began as a personal search became a lifelong devotion to embodiment, emotional release, and ecstatic living.
Together, they explore what it truly means to hold power responsibly as a facilitator, why integrity and repair matter in community spaces, and how living in alignment creates a natural legacy. Laurie shares how sexual energy is creative life force, why emotional release is foundational, and how tantra is both spiritual practice and chemistry.
The conversation also touches on aging, menopause, biohacking, erotic renaissance, and the myth of “happily ever after.” Laurie reminds listeners that walking this path will disrupt your life, and that once body, mind, and spirit are integrated, you cannot unsee that truth.
Episode Highlights
- From childhood activism to consent culture work
- Burnout and choosing sustainable lanes of impact
- Consent culture beyond sex and kink
- Reframing no as an affirmation of autonomy
- Collective care as self-care
- Healthy conflict vs. conflict avoidance
- Accountability without exile or endless punishment
- Scrupulosity and anxiety-driven righteousness
- Redefining community as shared investment and mutual responsibility
About Laurie Handlers
Laurie Handlers, MA, is an international speaker, bestselling author, and world-renowned teacher of sacred sexuality. For more than 40 years, she has guided people to release sexual shame, reclaim pleasure, and live in embodied truth.
She is the author of Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy and Sex & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age, both Amazon international bestsellers. A senior facilitator with the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA), Laurie has led retreats and trainings in over 50 countries.
With humor, candor, and fierce compassion, she invites people into a world where erotic freedom is essential, not optional.
Links & Resources Mentioned
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Laurie Handlers: https://lauriehandlers.com
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Free Boundaries Workbook (via her website)
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Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy: https://lauriehandlers.com/sex-and-happiness-order
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Sex & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age book: https://lauriehandlers.com/sex-and-happiness-book-new
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Inner Circle Membership : https://lauriehandlers.com/inner-circle?utm_source=Instagram&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=Inner+Circle
Connect with Laurie Ellington
Website: poly-coach.com
Instagram: @polycoaching
Work with Laurie:
Explore coaching for polyamory, open relationships, tantra, sacred sexuality, and conscious kink.
