Open Relationship Support
One thing that fascinates me about the open relationship therapy approach I use in my coaching practice is that I continuously learn more about myself with every client. As a professional open relationship coach, I get to share my experience of what it’s like to be in an open relationship, as well as share my practices of how to practice ethical non-monogamy in healthy and sustainable ways. I see how my open relationship therapy approach helps others make positive changes in their life and in their relationships.
To be clear: I work with individuals and couples in all kinds of relationships. I have an emphasis on open relationships and ethical non-monogamy because I am engaged in the lifestyle and consider myself an expert in the areas of open relationship therapy approaches and open relationship coaching. That said, I have no desire or intention to force anyone to create or to be in an open relationship. I support people in discovering what is in true alignment for themselves and offer tools to help people learn how to cultivate relationships that resonate with their heart and soul.
Special Note: Although I use an open relationship therapy approach, I am a professional open relationship coach. In addition to my years of experience as an expert, I also have years of experience in open relationships, polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy.
As an open relationship coach, I can legally share my personal experience with you when it is in service to help you gain perspective on a given situation. This is something that licensed therapists cannot do. Also, I can do sessions virtually anywhere. Most licensed therapists are bound to doing sessions in a private office which tends to increase their hourly rate.
Lastly, it is rare to find a licensed open relationship therapist who has the kind of “boots on the ground” experience in open relationships and ethical non-monogamy that I have. This is one of the main reasons people hire me as their experienced and professional open relationship coach.
Expert Open Relationship Therapy Approach Offers Points To Consider Before Opening Your Relationship
I often get calls from people who want to know how to open their relationship. They want to know how to approach the conversation with their partner and they want to know what to expect after they have the conversation. People often have the idea and then want to jump into action. I love the enthusiasm and I question acting before doing your homework. Choosing to open your relationship can be a serious endeavor. It’s best done when both parties have a clear idea of the intention behind the decision and they are both on board. This may take time and several conversations. The best first advice I offer couples interested in opening their marriage is to go slow and get clear on what you both want individually and as a couple. Supporting each other in the process of moving from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy is essential in creating a healthy and sustainable open relationship.
Read the complete article entitled “Important Considerations Before Opening Your Relationship” here.
Expert Open Relationship Therapy Approach Teaches Us How To Be Vulnerable In Open Relationships
In my work as an expert open relationship coach, I find it fascinating how often people struggle to keep parts of themselves hidden from their partners. They pretend these “parts” or “elephants in the room” are not there. They put them in the corner of the room. They even stuff them in the closet! All the while, those “elephants” and the stories, beliefs, energies they contain, continue to build and build. Before you know it, there’s a whole herd of elephants, parading around, creating havoc and conflict. In my opinion, the “elephant” is the part of ourselves we are scared to share. It may be linked to our inner child, a hidden fear/desire or the part of us that says, “I can’t say that!” Regardless of what “it” is for you, the fact that is there, grabbing your attention means something. It’s an invitation. Yes, an invitation. An invitation to be more of who you are, with whomever you are with at that given moment.
Get insights on how to be vulnerable from an expert who blends core elements of open relationship therapy with the practical action steps of coaching here.
Things To Consider When Meeting Your Partner’s Lover
Depending on what you and your partner decide, you may meet each other’s lovers or you may not. Meeting the person with whom your partner spends time with is a very personal choice. Some people in open relationships value knowing, or at least meeting the person their partner is dating before anything serious happens. Others take a more organic approach and let any meeting happen naturally. How and when people meet will depend on what works for everyone. This is where intention and communication come in. Having a conversation to address intentions, feelings, and the logistics of any meeting can be very helpful for all parties.
Get valuable insights here on how to meet your partner’s lover here.
Addressing Sexually Transmitted Infections In Open Relationships
When practicing ethical non-monogamy it is imperative to address the topic of sexually transmitted infections. Be proactive and have an open honest conversation with any and all potential play partners. Do this BEFORE you become intimate with them. By upfront I mean to be responsible, get tested, share results, offer full disclosure, and request the same from anyone (and everyone) you play with sexually. Yes, the conversation may be awkward, you may feel uncomfortable. And, the sooner you have the conversation, the sooner you can relax in knowing what you need to know in order to make a choice that best serves you and the person or people you are with.
Read my full post dedicated to addressing STIs in open relationships here.
How To Survive The Open Relationship Lifestyle
Navigating the open relationship terrain is an incredible journey. The territory is rich with ups and downs, twists and turns, amazing highs and surprising lows. In creating healthy and sustainable open relationships, we need to be willing to be open to everything that comes our way. Some days will be easy and others will be challenging. This is normal. The practice of ethical non-monogamy opens the door for us to see and learn more about how we navigate through life and through all of our relationships. How do we do all of this and survive? How can we stay true to what’s important to us and support those we care about in doing the same? Is it really possible for people to be happy when they are in an open relationship?
These questions and more are addressed in my post “How To Survive Being In Multiple Relationships.”
Dos & Don’ts for Open Relationship Dating
Open relationship dating doesn’t have to be hard. Sure, it can get complicated at times. There’s never a guarantee that a person you are interested in will be interested in being with someone who is already in a relationship. If you are in an open relationship and you are interested in dating other people, it’s important to be upfront about what your relationship orientation is and ask the same of anyone you date. The sooner this information is shared the better. This gives any potential partners the information they need to make a decision to choose what’s best for them. Providing information and asking follow-up questions gives both parties a chance to learn more about each other and see if there is interest in exploring ethical non-monogamy together.
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