Open Relationship Help

Open Relationship Help

The practice of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy is becoming more widespread.

There’s a lot of information out there about non-traditional relationships.  It’s easy to get lost in the sea of possibilities (and questions!). I strongly believe an open relationship is, and can be, what you want it to be for yourself and for your partner. In my open relationship coaching practice, I offer open relationship help and advice to singles and couples in order to assist them in creating the kinds of non-traditional relationships they truly desire. I draw from my own open relationship experiences and offer thoughtful perspectives on what loving relationships can look like.   I help couples build healthy and sustainable open relationships based on presence, authentic communication, and connection. My sincere desire is to help my clients move through the ups and downs of ethical non-monogamy with more ease and grace.

If you are struggling, have questions, or are looking for some immediate support, please contact me or schedule a free consultation online. I’m here to help.

Tips For Sustainable Loving Open Relationships

Let’s be honest, being in an open relationship can be challenging.  The territory of ethical non-monogamy is vast and full of surprising twists and turns.  One moment you may experience a blissful state of ecstasy and the next moment you may be in the throes of deep healing and transformation.  What I have found works for me and works for my clients is to have a clear understanding of what helps and what hinders the quality of their open relationship.  Having this clarity within your relationship is incredibly important and will help create a solid foundation from which your relationship can flourish over time.

Learn about the core dos and don’ts in open relationships here.

Rules vs. Agreements For Open Relationships

As an open relationship coach, I have a genuine curiosity to know what motivates people to make the decisions they make.  Having extensive personal experience in the practice of ethical non-monogamy, I can assure you there is a heightened sense of uncertainty in the lifestyle.  People who are in open relationships desire to feel grounded in this uncertainty.  Some people want to create strict rules in order to feel more secure in their relationship.  Rules allow them to feel safe.  Others want to experience more freedom and they prefer to create agreements with their partner.  For them, agreements feel more fluid and spacious while offering stability.  All of these things make sense to me. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter to me what you do or how you do it.  That’s your choice.  What’s important to me is the awareness and intention you bring to what you do in your life and in your relationships.

To learn more about rules and agreements in open relationships read the complete article here.

Getting Your Needs Met With Multiple Partners

Finding healthy ways to get our needs met in any kind of relationship is an important skill to learn and practice.   For some, this is a simple process.  For others, it can be quite challenging.  Add more people and more relationships to the mix, and things get complicated fast.  As we venture into the world of open relationships, we need to be mindful that everyone has a unique way of expressing their needs.  Knowing this can help people to learn how to best support each other in getting their needs met.

Read my full post entitled “Getting Your Needs Met With Multiple Partners”  here.

Need Help? Feel free to book a coaching session now.

How To Avoid Drama In The Open Lifestyle

Many people who are curious about open relationships have a sincere desire to avoid drama in their lives and in their open relationship.  They do whatever they can do to move around any emotionally charged situation in order to stay drama-free. The problem with this is that when we avoid emotionally charged situations, we tend to limit ourselves to our experience of how something should be, rather than how it really is.  By focusing on how something should be, we miss out on what is happening in the moment.  This limits our opportunity to create an alternative solution in our relationship.  Rather than focus on how something “should” be, we need to look at how something is.  Change is only possible when we start from where we are.

For more information, check out my full post dedicated to dealing with drama in open relationships here.

Keeping Things Balanced In Open Relationships

Competition in open relationships is very common.  The notion that,  “If my partner does [fill in an activity], then I have to do [fill in an activity of equal or greater value] because things need to be balanced.  If things aren’t balanced, then something is wrong, right?”  Not necessarily.  As much as we would like things to always be balanced in the open relationship lifestyle, there will be times when things appear or feel imbalanced.  This is part of the territory.   When this happens, it’s best to talk about what’s going on, share your feelings, and create a healthy way to move through the situation.  In doing so, all parties have an opportunity to feel at ease again and look at the situation from a new perspective.

For helpful open relationship friendly advice on how to deal with an imbalance in your relationship, check out my full post dedicated to Keeping Things Balanced In The Open Lifestyle.”

Best Places To Meet People In Open Relationships

“Where do we meet people like us?” is a common question I get from couples in open relationships.   As someone who is in an open relationship, I know it’s a challenge to meet people that

  1. Are in an open relationship or at least have an understanding of what an open relationship is;
  2. Are open to the practice of ethical non-monogamy and all that entails; 
  3. Share a mutual attraction and desire for me (and my partner if we are looking together) and vice versa.

If this sounds at all complicated, you’re right!  Finding the right match that works for you and your relationship can be like putting a square peg in a round hole.  It takes time, energy, and a lot of patience.  Yes, there are ways of meeting people that are easier than others.  What works for one couple might not work for another.  The key is to try them out and see what works best for you.

Read the full article on the best places to meet people in open relationships here.

Keep in mind, there’s a learning curve.

Wherever you are on the open relationship path, it’s good to remember that there is a learning curve.  Sometimes what you think makes sense might not feel good in the process of learning it. As your open relationship coach and guide, I will offer you pointed open relationship help and advice to help you navigate through the challenges you and your partner face. I will help you identify what you need to do to take your life and your relationships to the next level. And, I will offer you tools to help you get there.

Are you ready? Call today for a free 30-minute phone consultation.

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