DEEPEN & EXPAND

Polyamory Coaching for Growth, Communication & Intimacy
From surviving to thriving in open love.
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WHEN THE EXCITEMENT EVOLVES

You’ve already stepped into open love — the conversations, the emotions, the discoveries. You’ve felt the highs: freedom, honesty, expansion. And you’ve likely met the edges too: jealousy, overwhelm, or the quiet distance that appears when connection stretches thin.

Polyamory and open relationships are living ecosystems — they need tending, awareness, and care to stay alive and aligned.

You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just ready to deepen.

This stage isn’t about adding more partners; it’s about growing your capacity — for intimacy, integrity, and love that feels rooted in your body and truth.

THE CALL TO DEEPEN

When we first open our hearts, we learn to navigate the unknown. But after the first chapter of exploration, something shifts — the work becomes integration.
How
do you hold love for more than one person without losing your center?
How
do you balance freedom and responsibility?

How do you stay emotionally and erotically connected, even when things get messy?

This is where the real depth of polyamory begins. It’s not about perfection. It’s about expanding your nervous system’s capacity to hold complexity and still feel connected to yourself and others.

WHAT WE EXPLORE TOGETHER

This phase of coaching supports you in refining the relational skills that make open love sustainable, nourishing, and deeply alive.

Attachment & Regulation:
Understand how attachment patterns shape your open relationship dynamics.

Communication Mastery:
Learn to speak and listen with presence, even when emotions run high.

Boundaries & Integrity:
Find the line between freedom and self-abandonment.

Repair & Reconnection:
Rebuild safety and intimacy after conflict or disconnection.
Erotic Aliveness:
Reclaim desire through authenticity, play, and embodied connection. .
Relational Pacing:
Expand only as fast as your system can truly integrate.
This is polyamory communication coaching for real life — trauma-informed, heart-centered, and deeply human.

ABOUT LAURIE

I’m Laurie Ellington, founder of Poly-Coach — trauma-informed relationship and intimacy coach, somatic educator, and lifelong student of love’s many forms.

For over a decade, I’ve helped people and couples strengthen communication, rebuild trust, and deepen emotional connection through embodied awareness and relational practice.

My approach brings together:

  • Somatic Experiencing (SE):Learning to track and regulate sensations in the body.
  • IFS-Informed Coaching: Exploring the inner parts that drive polyamory dynamics.
  • Tantric & Sacred Sexuality Principles:Integrating eros with presence and authenticity.
  • Trauma-Informed Communication Tools: Restoring safety and honesty when trust has been stretched.

Clients often say this work feels like coming home — softer, stronger, more attuned, more themselves. It’s not about performing polyamory well. It’s about living love in a way that feels grounded, alive, and true.

THE PHILOSOPHY OF EXPANSION

In open love, expansion doesn’t mean more. It means deeper.

It’s learning to hold emotions — yours and your partners’ — without collapsing.
It’s feeling jealousy without shame, grief without panic, desire without fear.
It’s learning to stay in connection, even when love stretches you to your edges.

When you expand consciously, you stop reacting and start relating — with awareness, choice, and love.

THE COACHING JOURNEY

Deepen & Expand is designed for those already practicing ethical non-monogamy who are ready to evolve from managing relationships to embodying love as a conscious practice.

PHASE 1 — AWARENESS & ASSESSMENT

We explore what’s working, what’s not, and what your body is signaling beneath the surface. You’ll uncover attachment patterns and emotional habits that shape your dynamics.

PHASE 2 — COMMUNICATION & INTEGRATION

We build tools for attunement, boundaries, and repair — learning to navigate complexity without losing intimacy or self-connection.

PHASE 3 — EROTIC & EMOTIONAL ALCHEMY

We bring
eros and heart back into alignment, cultivating desire, play, and integrity across your relationships.

POLYAMORY COACHING VS. RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT

Managing relationships is about logistics. Deepening relationships is about awareness.

Without embodiment, polyamory can feel like emotional multitasking.
With presence, it becomes art — a living practice of devotion, curiosity, and truth.

Open relationship growth isn’t about getting it perfect.
It’s about staying rooted in love, even as it expands.

IMAGINE WHAT’S POSSIBLE

Jealousy becomes a doorway to intimacy, not an obstacle.

Communication feels clear and compassionate — no more walking on eggshells.
Erotic energy flows freely because you’re no longer managing — you’re expressing.
Relationships feel lighter, safer, and aligned with who you’re becoming.
You’re no longer surviving polyamory — you’re thriving within it.

CLIENT REFLECTIONS

“Deepening our communication saved our connection. Polyamory finally feels like the growth path it’s meant to be.”

– M., Denver

“We were drowning in jealousy and miscommunication. Working with Laurie helped us slow down, understand our triggers, and reconnect. Now our open relationship feels like a source of strength, not stress.”

– J & K, Seattle

“Laurie’s coaching gave me language for emotions I couldn’t articulate. I learned to hold space for my partner and myself at the same time — something I never thought possible.”

– T., Toronto

COACHING OPTIONS

You’ve already begun your journey — now it’s time to deepen it.

FREE
CONNECTION CALL
(15 MINUTES)

A short, no-pressure conversation to explore your goals and see if this phase of work is right for you.

EXPLORATORY COACHING
SESSION
(1 HOUR, DISCOUNTED)

A full working session to uncover emotional patterns, clarify next steps, and experience the depth of this work firsthand.

SCHEDULE AN EXPLORATORY SESSION

WORK WITH ME ANYWHERE

All sessions are virtual and confidential via Zoom. I work with English-speaking clients across the U.S., Canada, Europe, and Australia. There is no sexual contact involved under any circumstances.

This is advanced open relationship coaching for conscious lovers who want more — not more partners, but more presence, peace, and pleasure.

RESOURCES TO DEEPEN YOUR PRACTICE

Blog:

When Polyamory Feels Overwhelming—How to Find Your Center Again

Podcast:

The Poly Tantra Kink Podcast

Free Resources:

Free resources to support your relationship journey

A LIVING PRACTICE

To deepen is to become more intimate with truth. To expand is to remember that love grows best when it’s rooted.

This phase of your journey isn’t about perfection but it’s about presence. It’s where relationships stop being something you manage and become something you live.

“This work helped us rediscover each other. Polyamory stopped feeling like a puzzle and started feeling like art.”

– E & D, Portland

Let’s deepen and expand what’s already alive in you.
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