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Begin Your Journey

If you’re new to ethical non-monogamy or exploring polyamory for the first time, this is where your foundation begins. Learn to navigate curiosity, communication, jealousy, and agreements with compassion and clarity. You don’t have to figure it out alone — I’ll help you build skills for openness rooted in safety and trust.

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Deepen & Expand

Already in an open or polyamorous relationship and ready to grow? Deepen your capacity for intimacy, emotional resilience, and erotic connection. Expand your awareness around attachment, boundaries, and nervous system regulation — so that love feels more grounded and play becomes more liberating.

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Repair & Rebuild

When trust wavers or old wounds resurface, it’s possible to repair without losing the love you’ve built. Through trauma-informed coaching, I help couples and partners rebuild safety, reestablish integrity, and rediscover pleasure after ruptures, jealousy, or miscommunication.

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Exploratory Session

Curious whether coaching is right for you? An Exploratory Session is a safe, no-pressure space to share what’s happening in your relationship and clarify your next steps. Together, we’ll uncover where you are on your polyamory journey — and how I can best support your evolution.

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Begin Your Journey

If you’re new to ethical non-monogamy or exploring polyamory for the first time, this is where your foundation begins. Learn to navigate curiosity, communication, jealousy, and agreements with compassion and clarity. You don’t have to figure it out alone — I’ll help you build skills for openness rooted in safety and trust.

Start Here

Deepen & Expand

Already in an open or polyamorous relationship and ready to grow? Deepen your capacity for intimacy, emotional resilience, and erotic connection. Expand your awareness around attachment, boundaries, and nervous system regulation — so that love feels more grounded and play becomes more liberating.

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Repair & Rebuild

When trust wavers or old wounds resurface, it’s possible to repair without losing the love you’ve built. Through trauma-informed coaching, I help couples and partners rebuild safety, reestablish integrity, and rediscover pleasure after ruptures, jealousy, or miscommunication.

Book a Repair Session

Exploratory Session

Curious whether coaching is right for you? An Exploratory Session is a safe, no-pressure space to share what’s happening in your relationship and clarify your next steps. Together, we’ll uncover where you are on your polyamory journey — and how I can best support your evolution.

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FIND THE RIGHT SUPPORT FOR YOUR POLY JOURNEY

Support for Individuals, Couples & Professionals
Relationships can be complex, regardless of their structure. Whether you’re navigating polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, or simply looking to cultivate deeper, more fulfilling connections, coaching can offer the clarity and tools you need.
I provide a grounded, non-judgmental space to explore:
  • Communication and boundary-setting
  • Navigating jealousy and emotional challenges
  • Trauma-informed relationship healing
  • Tantra and embodiment practices
  • BDSM principles and energetics
  • Supporting professionals who coach or work with polyamorous clients
Let’s work together to align your relationships with your heart and soul.
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THREE BENEFITS OF POLYAMORY RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING

STRONGER COMMUNICATION
Strong relationships start with strong communication. You’ll learn how to express your needs, set healthy boundaries, and navigate emotions with more ease, helping your relationships grow…
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CLARITY & CONFIDENCE
You know what you want but getting there isn’t always easy. Coaching helps you get clear on your needs, communicate them effectively, and step into your relationships with confidence.
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JUDGMENT-FREE SPACE
Whether you’re struggling with jealousy, boundaries, or relationship dynamics, coaching offers a safe space to explore solutions without judgment. Give yourself permission to explore…
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Stronger Communication

Strong relationships start with strong communication. You’ll learn how to express your needs, set healthy boundaries, and navigate emotions with more ease, helping your relationships grow…
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Clarity & Confidence

You know what you want but getting there isn’t always easy. Coaching helps you get clear on your needs, communicate them effectively, and step into your relationships with confidence.
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Judgment-Free Space

Whether you’re struggling with jealousy, boundaries, or relationship dynamics, coaching offers a safe space to explore solutions without judgment.
Give yourself permission to explore…
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Recognized Among 2024's Top Polyamory & Non-Monogamy Experts

In 2024, DatingNews named Laurie Ellington one of the Top 10 Best Non-Monogamy Experts, placing her among the leading voices in polyamory and open relationships. When you work with Laurie, you learn from someone recognized worldwide for her compassion, experience, and ability to help people like you create honest, connected, and thriving relationships.

OVERCOMING COMMON CHALLENGES

Being in an open or polyamorous relationship comes with its own unique challenges.
You might feel excited about the possibilities, yet frustrated when things don’t go as smoothly as you hoped. The good news? There are ways to move through these challenges with clarity and confidence.

1. COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN

A simple question from your partner suddenly turns into a painful misunderstanding. Before you know it, you’re spiraling into frustration or emotional shutdown.
The Solution:

Coaching helps you regulate your emotions, communicate clearly, and rebuild connection—so these moments bring you closer instead of creating distance.

2. NAVIGATING JEALOUSY & INSECURITY

Even if you resonate and believe in polyamory, feelings of jealousy or self-doubt may take you by surprise. You might wonder, “Why do I feel this way? What’s wrong with me, what’s wrong with my partner?”
The Solution:

Instead of suppressing jealousy and other challenging emotions, learn to work with them. By identifying triggers, addressing fears, and developing emotional resilience, you can turn jealousy into an opportunity for self-growth.

3. BALANCING TIME & ENERGY

Managing more than one relationship while still taking care of yourself can feel overwhelming. How do you meet everyone’s needs, including your own?
The Solution:

You’ll learn how to set healthy boundaries, prioritize self-care, and manage time effectively so your relationships feel fulfilling instead of exhausting.

4. CONSENT & BOUNDARIES

You want to respect everyone’s needs, but sometimes, expectations aren’t clearly defined, leading to discomfort or misalignment.
The Solution:

The Solution: Establishing consent-based agreements and ongoing check-ins can help. Coaching helps you refine your approach so that everyone involved feels safe, heard, and valued.

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Is Polyamory Coaching Right for You?

Laurie’s coaching is for anyone who wants to navigate open relationships with more confidence, clarity, and connection.

Singles

Whether you’re new to polyamory or experienced, coaching helps you set healthy expectations, communicate your needs, and find relationships that align with you.

Couples & Partners

If you and your partner(s) are exploring or already practicing polyamory, coaching can help you strengthen communication, set clear boundaries, and work through challenges together.

Married Individuals

If you’re in a long-term relationship and considering ethical non-monogamy, coaching provides the guidance you need to explore this shift with intention, love, and a deeper sense of intimacy.

LGBTQ+ & Queer Relationships

Poly coaching is inclusive of all relationship styles, identities, and orientations. No matter who you love, you deserve support that honors and celebrates your experience.

Therapists, Coaches & Professionals

If you work with clients navigating open relationships, coaching can deepen your understanding of polyamory so you can offer the best support possible.
If any of this resonates with you, you’re in the right place.
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Feeling Overwhelmed?
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When emotions run high, you don’t have to figure it out alone. If you’re feeling stuck, uncertain, or overwhelmed in your polyamorous or open relationship, I’m here to help.

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Learn, Grow, and Navigate Polyamory with Confidence

Watch expert insights on communication, boundaries, emotional resilience, and real-life strategies to navigate ethical non-monogamy with confidence.

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A Safe Space for Growth

“Having a coach who truly understands poly relationships made all the difference. Laurie provided a judgment-free space where I could explore my needs and find my path.”
Taylor

Clearer Communication, Stronger Connection

“Laurie helped me and my partner turn endless miscommunication into deep, honest conversations. We finally feel like we’re on the same team again.”
Jordan & Alex

Overcoming Jealousy with Confidence

“I thought jealousy would ruin my relationships. Laurie gave me the tools to understand it, work through it, and build stronger, more secure connections.”
Sam
“Laurie is very good at holding a place for you each to be heard, and she facilitates actual listening and understanding with both partners. She helps you to tease out the aspects of the issue that are within your influence and your responsibility, and the parts that aren’t.”
Kami
“Laurie helped me navigate connections with more confidence and honesty. On a personal level, I feel more self-assured and open to new experiences, and I’ve built meaningful connections within the Austin community that have made this journey even more fulfilling.”
Andrea
“Over the past three years, Laurie has been an incredible guide in my journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Putting in the work wasn’t easy, but with Laurie’s support, I’ve transformed into a new person — someone who understands my values and can finally see the potential Laurie believed in long before I did. She is not only an amazing coach but also someone I’m proud to call a friend.”
Ryan
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Read the Blog for Real-World Wisdom
Relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all. Whether you’re deepening your polyamorous journey or seeking guidance as a professional supporting non-traditional relationships, the blog offers valuable perspectives, tools, and real-life experiences.

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Meet Laurie

A coach who walks the path with you

When I first stepped into the world of ethical non-monogamy (which for me included polyamory, open relationships, and swinging), it felt like I plugged my nervous system into an electrical socket. I was overwhelmed—jealousy, insecurity, fear, and frustration came from all directions. Since emotions were not welcomed in my childhood years, my instinct was to shut down rather than express what I was feeling. Polyamory helped me to grow, it became a powerful journey of self-discovery, communication, and emotional resilience. Over time, I learned how to regulate my emotions, communicate honestly, and create relationships that felt healthy and fulfilling.

Now, with over a decade of experience in both polyamory and coaching, I help others navigate this journey with clarity and confidence. I intimately know this terrain and the inner work it takes to make polyamory sustainable. It’s an honor to help you find what works for you in a way that feels right, aligned, and empowering.

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As Seen & Heard On Conversations That Matter

Laurie has been featured on top podcasts and platforms, sharing expert insights on relationships, communication, and ethical non-monogamy. From deep-diving into personal growth to exploring the nuances of polyamory, these conversations offer powerful takeaways for anyone navigating love and connection.

The Loving Without Boundaries Podcast Show

Laurie talks about connecting with your inner child, often using internal family systems (think Pixar’s Inside Out), and other emotion-management strategies.
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Sexy Funny Raw Podcast

Silvia chats with polyamory coach Laurie about ethical nonmonogamy—what it is, how to do it well, and the mistakes to avoid when opening up a relationship.

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DatingAdvice

With an open mind and supportive advice, Laurie encourages singles and couples to create the relationships they want.
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Practicing Polyamory Podcast

Laurie talks about connecting with your inner child, often using internal family systems (think Pixar’s Inside Out), and other emotion-management strategies.
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Beyond Coaching: Deepening Your Inner Work

Explore Additional Practices for Growth
Coaching is just one piece of the puzzle. True transformation happens when you integrate new insights into your body, mind, and soul. Beyond polyamory help and open relationship support, I offer additional services to support your personal and relational growth

Tantra & Sacred Sexuality

Expand your capacity for connection, presence, and intimacy.

Trauma-Informed Guidance

Heal emotional wounds and develop emotional resilience.

BDSM: Principles & Energetics

Strengthen emotional bonds between partners; deepen trust and surrender.

Mindfulness & Meditation

Practice self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and inner peace.
Ready to go deeper? Let’s explore what aligns with you.
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Coaching vs. Therapy

Which Path is Right for You?
Coaching and therapy both offer powerful support—but they serve different purposes. It’s important to do your research, take time, have consultations, and ask questions. You will know when you find the right person to help you work through your unique situation.

Therapy/Counseling

  • Focuses on the past
  • Healing emotional wounds
  • Addresses mental health issues
  • Deep emotional processing
  • Licensed professionals

Relationship Coaching

  • Focuses on the future
  • Growth and skill-building
  • Enhances relationship dynamics
  • Practical strategies and tools
  • No formal licensing required
I am not a therapist, but if coaching is the right fit for you, I can provide guidance to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and deeper self-awareness.

Still unsure? Let’s talk about what you need.

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Not sure where to start?
That’s okay—start where you are. Whether you’re curious, cautious, or knee-deep in it, you’re not alone. Let me know a little bit about where you are, and we’ll take it from there.

Let’s Connect

Wherever you are in your journey, you’re welcome here.

If you’re ready to work one-on-one with an experienced polyamory coach, I’d love to hear from you.

The best next step? A call with me. Let’s talk.

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