Polyamory and Polyamorous Relationship Coaching FAQ: “How Do I Find People Who Are Interested in Polyamory and Polyamorous Relationships”?

Laurie Ellington, Poly-Coach, Offers Coaching Tips for Open Relationships, Polyamorous Relationships, Poly Dating, and Ethical Non-Monogamy.


This is a big one.  Once you have had the conversations and made the decision to venture into the open relationship and polyamorous lifestyle, how do you go about finding other poly people and potential playmates?


Online dating sites are a great place to start.  OkCupid is very poly friendly.  There are other sites that are less main stream, and often have a charge.  OkCupid is one of my favorites because you can be very specific on your profile and it’s free!

Phone apps.  Tinder is a popular way to find sex positive people.  I do caution you to offer a clear presentation of who you are and what you are looking for.  Many people use Tinder, and similar apps, as a hookup site.  Although that can be fun, there are other options as well.

Meetup groups.  I have found many open relationship and polyamory friendly groups on meetup.com.  You can search all over the web, and join groups that interest you.  Many groups get together to share and discuss topics related to open relationships, and all things poly.   Meetup groups are a great way to meet people, learn some new skills, and get yourself out there.

Facebook.  Like meetup.com, there are groups on Facebook that cater to open relationships, polyamory, and polyamorous dating.  Be sure to read the fine print in the “about” section of the group.  Many groups discourage private messaging to group members.  That said, joining a group, may engage you in having conversations, creating connections, and participating in special events.

Fetlife.  Fetlife is a free social media network for those interested in kink.  It’s worth checking out to see what is being offered in your area.  You may find some like-minded people and create some really fun connections!

Swinger sites.  There are a variety of swinger sites and groups out there.  Adult Friend Finder, Swingers Dating Club, and Kasidie are a few.  There is usually a free one month trial, and then you pay a monthly fee there after.  Swingers are typically more interested in sex, less interested in the emotional connections that many polyamorous people like, however, you never know what’s out there until you take a look.  Personally, I think swinging is a nice way for a single/couple to get their feet wet in meeting other sex positive people, and seeing what happens.  It will definitely open the door for new kinds of conversations and connections!

Craigslist.  This one may be a little off, but, you never know.  Again, what’s important is that you are very clear with what you are looking for and clear in how you present yourself to others.

Need help in creating an online profile?  Call me!  I’d love to share my insights with you!

For more information about open relationship coaching and polyamory coaching services, and to schedule a Free Exploratory Poly-Coach Session, contact Laurie Ellington, Poly-Coach, today.

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Laurie Ellington

Polyamorous Coach at Poly-Coach
I teach people how to break through false beliefs and negative behavior patterns. I offer my clients tools that empower their life and their relationships.
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