About Laurie Ellington ~ Poly-CoachThe Open Relationship, Polyamory and Polyamorous Relationship Coach
Welcome to Poly-Coach! I am thrilled you are here.
A little bit about me and my journey with polyamory, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy:
My journey with polyamory, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy began when I made a declaration to upgrade my way of being in relationships. I had a history of being in monogamous relationships, and although I enjoyed them (well most of them), and they served me well (some better than I had anticipated!), I always felt stuck, like I was in a box I didn’t know to get out of; and although I didn’t like it, I wasn’t quite sure what to do about it. I was one of those “go-with-the-flow” kind of girls. I was okay with that until I wasn’t.
The catalyst for my change was a result of an incredibly harsh and unpleasant relationship. You know, the relationship that you sort of know you’re not supposed to get into, and then you do, and then you stay in it, and all kinds of shit breaks loose. I was in one of those. And, when it was over, I vowed to never go back. I vowed to never settle for anything less than what I truly desired in my heart, regardless of what others thought or felt. I realized then, that I was about to embark on a journey of living a new kind of life, surrounded by amazing people, creating and cultivating relationships that felt incredibly aligned with my body, mind, and spirit. It was during that fertile period of listening to my heart, asking for what I truly desired, and allowing the Universe to respond, that I met my soul mate, life partner, and best friend.
It’s funny, because the day we call our anniversary is the day he got me on the phone to have a conversation about our attraction. He said, “Look… I’m poly. I’m always going to be poly. I’ll probably always have another girlfriend. If you’re okay with that, then let’s talk.” We talked. The conversation was amazing! It felt to me like the Universe was presenting a new way of being in relationship that I had never considered possible before, and now, this guy that I had known and trusted for years, was inviting me in. I was ecstatic. At one point I said to him, “So… If you get to have another girlfriend, and have the freedom to follow your desires, does that mean I get to follow my desires, and have another boyfriend, girlfriend, or both?” His response, “Absolutely!” In that moment something shifted for me, and I think for him too. We both saw the potential for a new kind of relationship, an open relationship, a polyamorous lifestyle, and it felt good. From that point on, our relationship deepened and continues to deepen every day. I can honestly say I’m the happiest I have ever been. I feel so free to be me, and I feel so blessed to have a primary partner who supports me in being my authentic self, following my desires. I am equally delighted to support my primary partner in doing the same. It truly is a dream come true!
So how and why did I become an Open Relationship, Polyamory, and Polyamorous Relationship Coach?
I have always loved working with people, teaching and supporting them in making positive changes in their life. I’ve been in numerous teaching roles and capacities for the past 20 years, and have always considered myself a natural born teacher, coach, and guide. It was during a two-year coaching and apprenticeship program, that I learned how to help people break through limiting beliefs and patterns that kept them stuck in unhealthy relationships with themselves and with others. I also learned how to help people take charge of their life in more empowering ways, learning new behaviors to cultivate new experiences in every area of their life. This training, coupled with my open relationship and polyamorous lifestyle, led me to consider blending the two. The result, the creation of a coaching practice geared towards the practice of ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory ~ Poly-Coach.
One thing that fascinates me about my polyamorous relationship coaching practice is that I continuously get to learn more about myself with every client. I get to share my experience of what it’s like to be polyamorous, as well as share my practices of how to be in an open relationship in healthy ways. It’s an amazing positive feedback loop, where everyone benefits, all the time. A continuous flow of growth and connection, possibility and renewal, joy and love.
I feel grateful for what I do, grateful to know my life experience has value. I see how the work I do is helping others make positive changes in their life and in their relationships.
To be clear: I work with individuals and couples in all kinds of relationships. I have an emphasis on open relationships, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy because I live in the lifestyle. That said, I have no desire or intention to convert anyone to polyamory that is not ready. I support people in discovering what is in true alignment for themselves and offer tools to help people learn how to cultivate relationships that resonate with their heart and soul.
Thank you for reading. I look forward to working with you 🙂